Tag: NLP article
Relationship chemistry: What is it? How does it work?
After getting my final chemotherapy treatment at the beginning of May, I experienced ongoing problems with tiredness. Curiously, mental fatigue severe enough to keep me from writing blog posts had little effect on my ability to date and socialize. Which makes sense, I suppose; our ancestors spent millions of years socializing, not blogging.
My busy dating life gives me plenty of opportunities to learn more about relationships. Which brings me to today’s topic, personal (relationship) chemistry.
Read more...Posted: June 9th, 2010 under NLP articles, relationships.
Tags: dating chemistry, friendship, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article, rapport, relationship chemistry, relationships, romantic chemistry, sexual chemistry
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Love convincer strategies: the Love Languages meta-program
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Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts explores common convincer strategies for love. Chapman calls them love languages.
When someone gets plenty of convincing evidence they are loved — evidence that fits their convincer criteria — they feel loved and appreciated. In Chapman’s words, their “emotional gas tank” gets filled.
When people don’t get convincing evidence of love — or worse, when they get convincing evidence that they are not loved — their emotional gas tank gets depleted and they feel unloved, unappreciated… and often hurt, hostile, resentful, etc. This can happen even when they are receiving lots of love — because it’s in a form they don’t recognize as love.
Read more...Posted: April 5th, 2010 under NLP articles, meta-programs, relationships.
Tags: 5 love languages, convincer strategies, five love languages, Gary Chapman, love, meta-program, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article
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Disassociation is association?!?
One of the most fruitful parts of my modeling work involves unpacking aspects of NLP that most of us NLPers don’t question.
Take disassociation, for example. In your NLP training you might have learned that disassociated = not associated.
Wrong.
When my research buddy Jan “yon” Saeger and I started investigating disassociation, Jan quickly realized that, strictly speaking, disassociation doesn’t exist.
Read more...Posted: March 28th, 2010 under NLP articles.
Tags: advanced NLP, association, disassociation, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article
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The myth of fast NLP mastery
In “NLP and the myth of the quick fix,” I discussed how promoting NLP as an instant cure-all causes problems for NLPers an our customers.
Unfortunately, NLP’s “quick fix” mentality also extends to NLP training.
Instant NLP mastery!
NLP includes advanced technology for quickly transferring skills. However, while training can expose students to skills and techniques, mastering skills takes practice. And practice takes time.
Read more...Posted: March 5th, 2010 under NLP articles, critique.
Tags: Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article, NLP criticsm, NLP hype, NLP marketing, NLP training
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NLP and the myth of the quick fix
When I began my NLP training in 2002, I quickly embraced the myth of the NLP “quick fix.”
To their credit, my trainers were fairly low-key about what NLP could do. But they did promote the idea of NLP working “much faster” than alternatives, such as conventional therapy. And during training, my fellow students and I were often able to quickly fix some of our own and other people’s problems. Sometimes these were issues that had endured for decades, yet with NLP we could resolve them in under half an hour.
Many of us NLP students, including me, quickly developed overblown ideas of what NLP (and we) could accomplish.
Read more...Posted: February 26th, 2010 under NLP articles, critique.
Tags: Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article, NLP criticsm, NLP hype, NLP marketing
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Structure of PTSD video by Andrew T. Austin
NLP expert Andy Austin explains the anatomy of post-traumatic stress disorder — including the hidden factor that drives the PTSD trauma:
(This clip is part of the 2009 NLP Advanced Mastery Training video series, featuring Andy Austin, Steve Andreas, and Steven Watson. )
Read more...Posted: February 19th, 2010 under NLP articles, trauma & treatment.
Tags: advanced NLP, Andrew T. Austin, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article, PTSD treatment, trauma treatment, videos
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25 techniques for treating emotional trauma and PTSD
What is psychological trauma?
A trauma is a strong, persistent, negative emotional response to a past event, or reminders of it.
Trauma characteristics:
- A trauma is not an experience. It is an emotional response to an experience. If the emotional response is positive, the experience is not traumatic, no matter how harrowing its sensory details. (Think of all the people who pay money to have scary, dangerous experiences such as white-water rafting!)
Posted: February 14th, 2010 under NLP articles, techniques, trauma & treatment.
Tags: 3D Mind, advanced NLP, Andrew T. Austin, Change Personal History, Comprehensive Memory Cleanup, double description, doyletic Speed Trace, EFT, EMDR, Emotional Freedom Technique, Eye Movement Integration, Failure Into Feedback Strategy, Fast Phobia Cure, hypnotic regression, Jan Saeger, mapping across, Michael Harris, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Nick Kemp, NLP article, NLP technique, PTSD treatment, Reimprinting, Robert Dilts, Sock Trick, spinning feelings, submodalities, superstimuli, synesthesias, Thought Pattern Management, Tom Stone, Tom Vizzini, Trauma Process, Trauma Resolution Techniques, trauma treatment, triggers
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What makes something NLP?
What do NLP techniques, applications, and models have in common? What makes them NLP?
Not a core theory of how the mind works. NLP doesn’t have one.
Not field of application. NLP gets used for therapy, business, sales, seduction, negotiation, writing, sports, education, personal coaching, and more.
Not origins or developers. Lots of people developed and expanded NLP. Many NLP models (including the first formal NLP pattern, the Meta-Model) got imported into NLP from other disciplines or modeled from experts in other fields.
Given that, what makes a model or technique an NLP model or technique?
Read more...Posted: January 15th, 2010 under NLP articles.
Tags: advanced NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article, NLP basics
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Your elicitation skills work for NLP modeling
If you’re like most NLP Practitioners I talk with, your training included a lot of elicitation, and little or no NLP modeling.
That’s unfortunate, because modeling is the core skill of NLP. In fact, Richard Bandler and John Grinder used it to create Neuro-Linguistic Programming. NLP’s rich array of techniques, models, and applications got developed and refined using modeling.
How ironic that NLPers so rarely learn NLP’s core skill and strategy. But fortunately…
Read more...Posted: January 8th, 2010 under NLP articles, NLP modeling, techniques.
Tags: advanced NLP, elicitation, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article, NLP basics, NLP modelling, NLP technique
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NLP modeling — the core skill of NLP
This is an NLP modeling, research, and development blog. In a previous post I defined NLP modeling. In future articles, I’ll write about my process for modeling, and reveal modeling tips and tricks. Today, I discuss how NLP and modeling relate.
What is NLP?
When most people talk about NLP, they mean:
- NLP techniques, such as anchoring, pacing and leading, and the Fast Phobia Cure;
- NLP applications, such as applying rapport skills to sales; and/or
- NLP models, such as timelines and eye access cues.
However, I and most NLP developers regard another aspect of NLP as more important:
- NLP modeling, NLP’s process for figuring out the specifics of how someone does a skill in enough detail that other people can achieve similar results.
Posted: December 25th, 2009 under NLP articles, NLP modeling.
Tags: advanced NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP article, NLP basics, NLP modelling
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