Advanced NLP: modeling, research, articles
Written by Joy Livingwell, 26 November 2011
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In this 12-minute TEDx talk, Jay Smooth makes some excellent suggestions for switching important aspects of one’s self-concept from digital to analog:
Posted under relationships, strategies.
Written by Joy Livingwell, 30 September 2011
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This is my tribute to the late Tom Hoobyar — a wonderful, generous, warm-hearted man who died 25 September 2011. Tom’s daughter Tracy asked people to post lessons they’d learned from Tom, who was an entrepreneur, NLPer, and teacher and mentor to many. Here are mine.
The main lessons I learned from Tom were:
Posted under NLP practitioners.
Written by Joy Livingwell, 25 September 2011
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Tom Hoobyar, the founder of the orginal NLP Cafe (a practice group for NLP and hypnosis skills), died this morning, 25 September 2011, of stage 4 pancreatic cancer.
Join Tom’s support community here:
http://www.facebook.com/groups/250177441679151/
Make a donation to help the family with Tom’s enormous medical expenses here:
http://www.gofundme.com/for-the-love-of-tom
Those of us who know and love Tom can count ourselves blessed to have enjoyed so much time with this wonderful man.
Joy
Updates in the comments:
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Written by Joy Livingwell, 24 September 2011
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Tom Hoobyar, the founder of the orginal NLP Cafe (a practice group for NLP and hypnosis skills), has died. has stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He is on life support in Reno, Nevada, no longer able to speak, and dying.
Tom helped thousands of people in the NLP community. Because of Tom, NLP Cafes became a worldwide phenomenon.
Follow Tom’s story and join his support community here:
http://www.facebook.com/groups/250177441679151/
Make a donation to help with Tom’s medical expenses here:
http://www.gofundme.com/for-the-love-of-tom
NLPer Maryam Webster posted this on Tom’s Facebook page:
One of the greatest and kindest men alive, Tom Hoobyar an earth angel and benefactor to nearly everyone I know, is down with metastatic pancreatic cancer. Tom’s care is monstrously expensive and draining the family coffers dry. If you DONATE $150 or more BEFORE NOVEMBER 1st, email me & I WILL GIVE YOU a customized Super-Ninja-Skills transformation coaching package valued at $500 on ANY topic, personal or business.
If you want to see Tom before he goes, visit NOW, in the next few days.
Those of us who know and love Tom can count ourselves blessed to have enjoyed so much time with this wonderful man.
Joy
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Written by Joy Livingwell, 28 June 2011
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From an Inherent Excellence blog post by NLPer and life coach Erol Fox, who writes some good stuff:
People just don’t understand what love is, so they suffer. Most Westernized people think love is when you can’t live without someone or some object. Any doctor will tell you that actually sounds like a disease.
Atisha, a Buddhist monk in the 10th Century echoed what love really is:
“Love is the wish for others to be happy.”
Really? I disagree.
Merely wishing others to be happy, without taking tangible action to help them achieve happiness, is not love. It is mental masturbation. And delusional, if a person thinks that intending love makes up for their unloving actions.
Posted under critique, relationships.
Written by Joy Livingwell, 10 April 2011
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Recently I assisted at a workshop designed to help singles gain social skills and connect with each other.
At the end of the evening, an attractive young woman said she is usually shy because she cares too much about what other people think. During some of the workshop exercises, she was able to not care what others thought of her, and found it liberating. She wanted the ability to not care what others think in the rest of her life.
I gently point out that while not caring what others think can be liberating, it can also be problematic. Would you really want ignore how your actions affect other people to the point that you hurt or offend them? Or maybe suffer serious consequences, such as getting fired? Probably not.
Posted under meta-programs, NLP articles, relationships, self-change, strategies.
Written by Joy Livingwell, 28 March 2011
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When Gary recalls a negative memory, he re-experiences the emotion he felt, and gets upset. Since he is prone to obsessive thinking, once a negative emotion triggers, he can obsess about it — and stay upset — for hours.
Tabitha gets trauma flashbacks. She re-experiences events so vividly that they re-traumatize her. Afterward fear, anxiety, depression, and crying jags can debilitate her for days, and affect her mood for weeks.
Emotionally loaded recall is especially common in people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), a learned trauma response. It’s also common among people with Asperger syndrome. Like Gary, Aspies are prone to obsess over negative emotions and make them worse.
Of course, re-experiencing remembered emotions can be an asset when you recall pleasant memories. But with negative experiences — especially traumas — it’s usually preferable to get the useful life lessons from less-than-positive memories, without getting upset or re-traumatized.
Posted under NLP articles, NLP techniques, strategies, trauma & treatment.
Written by Joy Livingwell, 7 September 2010
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From an article in the NY Times:
In recent years, cognitive scientists have shown that a few simple techniques can reliably improve what matters most: how much a student learns from studying.
The findings can help anyone, from a fourth grader doing long division to a retiree taking on a new language. But they directly contradict much of the common wisdom about good study habits, and they have not caught on.
Posted under learning, teaching, science & news.
Written by Joy Livingwell, 22 July 2010
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“People don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it,” Simon Sinek explains in this fascinating TED Talk:
Posted under communication, strategies.
Written by Joy Livingwell, 29 June 2010
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In “The Secret Power of Time,” professor Philip Zimbardo discusses how ways of representing of time affect people’s work, health and well-being. A fascinating non-NLP view of time:
Have you read the book Zimbaro mentions, The Geography of Time? (I haven’t.) If so, what do you think of it?
Posted under science & news, time & timelines.